My Story- PART 2:

One day I am not sure how, I realised that this man was weak, and I felt stronger. I felt that I could now manage my emotions instead of obeying to his dominating and abusive behaviour. He went to hit me, and I am ashamed to say I lost control, I threw anything I could at him, I do not know where I got the strength from, he ended up crawling up my hallway like a baby, as he knew if he got up, something else would go over his head. He never hit me again! If I tell people this they often laugh at the thought, however although he did deserve this; I’ve often questioned what would happen if I had got hold of a knife, I’d totally lost control. This was the deciding factor in moving towns with my children. I decided that if I was going to uproot my children to another town, I would learn ways to get my life back, with me in control. I slowly held out and began educating myself and began to trust people again. I went to college to do an access course, not really for the education at that time, but more to get stronger and get my mojo back so to speak. I became more confident and found a voice. I went on to do a degree and a MA, which gave me the qualifications to be employed as a social worker, this gave me the experience to set up my business. I have always been appalled on how many children are taken into care because their mother was not deemed able to safeguard her children. I understand Children Services did not feel they had an option as the children needed to be safeguarded, but how on earth can a woman, worn down and controlled, be able to leave home, or throw the perpetrator out of the house to safeguard the children. I always felt that once the child/ren were safe and in foster care, hardly any help was given to the mother other than demands to end the relationship for the sake of her child/ren. Subsequently many children do not leave foster care, some go on to be adopted. The legal aid system has changed and many people even if they are escaping an abusive relationship and they co own a house, are expected to self-fund an application to court. This stops many people pursuing court. #familycourt #cafcass #mackenziefriend #courtwork #childcontact #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #domesticviolenceawareness #emotionalabuse #abuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #survivor #gaslighting #toxicrelationships #divorce #domesticviolencesurvivor #abusiverelationship #legalaid #childcontact #parentalalienation #childabuse #nocontact #domesticabusesurvivor #mackenziefriend #dhfamilyandcourtcolutions